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I Am Me: Undefined

The first day I gained my freedom, I was twenty-seven.  It was both exhilarating and terrifying. There was a time where I looked back on that day and felt nothing but pain.  Pain of what I walked away from, pain because I had left the people I loved most, pain because I was leaving a … Continue reading I Am Me: Undefined

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My Father is a Sociopath and I still Love Him

I love someone who has no capacity to love anyone in return. My own dad can't love me, but that doesn't prevent me from loving him.  Despite the worst things he has ever done, he still holds a place in my heart.  I get asked "how" or "why" quite often. "How could you possibly still … Continue reading My Father is a Sociopath and I still Love Him

Personal Revelations–Freeing Myself from Stockholm Syndrome

    I spent years wrapped in guilt. I walked away from my father because the abuse had risen to a level that was no longer safe. Shutting that door, meant shutting it forever. And I knew it would hurt. I put his emotional needs above my own. I was worried about how my leaving … Continue reading Personal Revelations–Freeing Myself from Stockholm Syndrome

Learning to Appreciate the Body you Inhabit

As women, we seem to constantly judge our own appearances. We compare ourselves to one another, to those in the media, to societies standards of beauty.  We zone in on our flaws, and disregard what is beautiful.  We never seem to measure up. Eating disordered or not, positive body image is something we all struggle … Continue reading Learning to Appreciate the Body you Inhabit

Carrigan

I watch my four-year-old and can't help but admire everything that she is. I watch her twirl in the mirror and grin back at her own reflection.  When asked if she's beautiful, she unabashedly responds with "yes". She will confidently tell us she is pretty even as she stands in mix matched pajamas, her hair … Continue reading Carrigan

It’s the Little Things

♥Carrigan Niamh ♥ I'm sitting in the park watching my daughter run around the playground, and for the first time, I realize just how much my life has changed. I'm enjoying her--seeing her jump, skip and play.  I'm loving the breeze that's blowing, the smell of salt air, and the distant sound of waves crashing.  I'm … Continue reading It’s the Little Things

Weight Set-Point Theory: Scientific Understanding of Dieting and Weight

It seems that no matter where I turn, EVERYONE is on a diet. And it makes me angry. I'm not angry towards those on a diet, but towards society in general. I'm angry about the lack of information and education out there. We have scientific evidence to explain why diets don't work long term.  Most … Continue reading Weight Set-Point Theory: Scientific Understanding of Dieting and Weight

I am not my Eating Disorder

I tried to hold a conversation with my dietitian last week about exercise, and it ended in me biting back tears. If there is one phrase that I hate and I'm tired of hearing from everyone, it's this one: "Melinda, I can't tell if I'm talking to you or your eating disorder right now."  STOP. … Continue reading I am not my Eating Disorder